# Our family AI plan

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Online: https://www.lumin.faith/kids-and-ai#family-plan

Seven questions to answer together, with room to write. The starting answers come from Lumin’s guide for parents. Change any of them, sign it together, and put it where everyone can see it.

> These words I command you today must stay on your heart. Repeat them to your children again and again, and talk about them when you are sitting at home and when you are out on the road, when you lie down and when you rise.
> — Deuteronomy 6:6–7 (Lumin Translation)

Family: ____________________ · Agreed on: ____________

## 1. Which AI tools we use, and where

- In shared rooms, not behind a closed door.
- To explain, not to write the assignment. School rules come first.
- We check every Bible verse and every fact that matters.

| Tool | What we use it for | Where |
| --- | --- | --- |
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## 2. Where devices sleep at night

- Somewhere shared, not behind a closed door at night.
- If a tool offers quiet hours, we turn them on.

Our devices sleep in: ______________________________

Screens off at: ______________________________

## 3. What we never tell a chatbot

- Our full name, address, school, photos, or secrets.
- Passwords, and anything private about someone else. *(Lumin’s suggestion)*

Also: ______________________________

## 4. Our rule on AI companion or “friend” bots

- We don’t use companion or character apps. They are designed to feel like a relationship.
- A chatbot is not a friend, a secret confidant, or a romantic partner.

If a friend shows us one, we: ______________________________

## 5. If a bot says something scary, asks for secrets, or speaks as God or Jesus

- Stop and bring it to a parent.
- A bot that asks for secrets gets none.
- A bot speaking as Jesus is not Jesus speaking. We open the Bible together.
- Parents: thank them for telling you, and listen.
- Any talk of self-harm: call or text 988 in the U.S. now.

## 6. Who we tell

- A parent first, or another trusted person.

A parent: ______________________________

Another adult we trust: ______________________________

At church: ______________________________

## 7. Our weekly check-in question

- “What did you talk to it about?”

Our question: ______________________________

We ask it on: ______________________________

## Signed

______________________ · ______________________ · ______________________ · ______________________

We read this plan again when a new app appears.

## What changes by age

One plan for the whole table. What changes with age is how much a child does alone, and what you ask each week.

### Under 8

- No chatbot account of their own. OpenAI’s terms require users to be at least 13.
- A Bible app with an AI helper is something you use together. Sit with them.
- Tablets and phones sleep outside their bedroom. *(Lumin’s suggestion)*
- Keep the plan to three things they can say back: ask a parent first, never tell a screen where we live, and tell us when something is scary. *(Lumin’s suggestion)*
- Ask each week: “Did anything on a screen make you scared or confused?” *(Lumin’s suggestion)*

### 8–12

- Still under OpenAI’s minimum age of 13. Use AI together, in a shared room.
- AI can explain a hard homework idea another way or quiz memory verses. It does not write the assignment.
- Teach them to open every verse an AI quotes and check it. The Bible verse checker helps.
- Name companion and character apps before a friend shows them one, and explain why your family says no. *(Lumin’s suggestion)*
- Ask each week: “What did you ask an AI, and did it get anything wrong?” *(Lumin’s suggestion)*

### 13–17

- OpenAI’s terms allow 13 and up, with parental permission under 18. Age is a floor, not a readiness test.
- If they use ChatGPT, link accounts and set quiet hours. You cannot read their conversations, so keep talking.
- Still no companion or character apps. Character.AI ended open-ended chat for users under 18.
- AI can help outline a paper they will write themselves. Handing in its work as theirs is not honest.
- If a bot has become a comfort or a romance, stay calm, ask questions, and listen before you remove it.
- Ask each week: “What did you talk to it about?”

Lines marked Lumin’s suggestion are our own advice. Every other line comes from Lumin’s guide for parents and the sources it cites.

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Why these answers: https://www.lumin.faith/kids-and-ai
In a crisis in the U.S., call or text 988.
Scripture quotation is from the Lumin Translation. Made by Lumin, a Bible AI that names the verse beside every answer.
Free tools for Christians using AI: https://www.lumin.faith/hub